KK 给年轻人的 68 条建议

KK 是凯文·凯利的网名,他曾经担任《连线》杂志的第一任主编,是著名的科技评论家,也是畅销书《失控》的作者。去年的 4 月 28 日是他 68 岁生日,他在个人网站上发表了一篇给年轻人的 68 条建议,文章被翻译成了十几种其它语言,今年 4 月 28 日老爷子又续写了一篇给年轻人的 99 条建议,本文是给年轻人的 68 条建议中文翻译版,翻译除了借助 DeepL 机器翻译工具外,更多参考自KK 在 68 岁生日时给出的 68 条建议

Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe. 学着从那些你不认可甚至冒犯你的人身上学习,看看能否从他们的信仰中找到真理

Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points. 充满热情可以抵得上 25 点智商

Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better. 做任何事都应该设一个 deadline,它可以帮你排除那些无关紧要的事情,也能避免过分要求自己尽善尽美。努力去做到与众不同,差异比完美更好

Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it. 不要害怕自己问的问题看起来很愚蠢,99% 的情况下,其他人和你有一样的问题,只不过他们羞于问而已

Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more. 倾听是一种超能力,当听到你喜欢的人说话时,要不时的追问「还有吗」,直到他们没有更多的东西可讲

A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier. 一个有意义的年度目标是去充分了解一个学科,这样你就会对一年前的无知感到难以置信

Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at. 感恩可以解锁其它所有的美德,也是你可以继续做的更好的一件事情

Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends. 请一个人吃饭是非常简单的一件事情,不仅仅是老朋友,这也是结交新朋友的有效方式

Don’t trust all-purpose glue. 不要相信万能药

Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations. 经常给的孩子读书不仅能巩固你们之间的感情,也能帮助孩子开启想象力

Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers. 永远不要用信用卡去透支。唯一可以接受的透支或负债,应该是那些通过负债有极大可能获得增值的事物,比如房屋。绝大多数事物在你买下它的那一刻就开始贬值了,别为那些没有未来的事物透支

Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes. 专业人士不过是善于从挫折中优雅爬起的菜鸟

Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed. 要想让人相信非同寻常的观点,就需要非同寻常的证据

Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you. 别成为一群人中最聪明的那一个,和那些比你聪明的人待在一起,向他们学习。如果能找到和你观点相反的聪明人,那就更好了

Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth. 对话中的「数字 3 原则」。想要找到一个人真正的意图,那就请他把刚才说的话再深入一些,如此反复直到第三遍,你就能比较接近真相了

Don’t be the best. Be the only. 不做最好的,去做唯一的

Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead. 每个人都很害羞,其他人正等着你向他们介绍你自己,等着你给他们发送邮件,等着你约他们见面。大胆的向前走

Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works. 别人拒绝你的时候不要往心里去。假设他们和你一样忙碌、腾不出手、心烦意乱,再试一次,第二次成功的几率超乎你的想象

The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing. 习惯的意义在于无需再为某类行为纠结,不用再消耗精力去觉得是否做这件事。干就完了,讲真话和使用牙线都是很好的习惯

Promptness is a sign of respect. 及时回应是表示尊重的一种方式

When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario. 当你年轻的时候,应该至少花半年到一年的时间,过尽可能穷的日子,拥有尽可能少的身外之物,居陋室而箪食瓢饮,体验你可能会经历的最穷困潦倒的生活。这样,在未来任何时候,你都不用担心最坏的情况

Trust me: There is no “them”. 相信我,没有「他们」

个人理解,KK 大叔想表达的意思应该是:太阳底下无新事,每个人都是历史的参与者

The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested. 你越有兴趣了解别人,别人就会发现你越有趣,要成为有趣的人,先要对别人感兴趣

Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away. 常行慷慨之事,没有人会在死的时候后悔给予的太多

To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them. 想要做好一件事,干就完了。想要做一件值得称赞的事情,那就重做一遍,重做一遍,再重做一遍。制造好东西的秘诀在于不断的重做

The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues. 金科玉律永远不会让你失望,它是所有其他美德的基础

If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it. 如果你正在你的房子里寻找什么东西,那么用完后不要放回你找到它的地方,而是放到你最初找它的地方

Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth. 存钱和投资是好习惯。几十年如一日的定期进行小额投资(定投),是一条致富之路

To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is. 犯错是人之常情,承认错误是神圣的。认错并勇于担责,再认真弥补过错,没有什么比这更可贵了。是自己搞砸的就勇于承担,这反而能彰显你的强大

Never get involved in a land war in Asia. 永远不要在亚洲陷入地面战争

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You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further. 你可以专注于你的顾客、听众或客户,也可以沉迷于在竞争中获胜,这两种方法都行之有效,但是专注于服务你的客户会让你走的更远

Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up. 在场,坚持在场,某个成功人士说过:99% 的成功只不过是因为在场

Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement. 将创造过程与改进过程分开,你不可能在写做的同时进行编辑,也不可能在凿刻的同时进行打磨,更不可能在制造的同时进行分析。如果你这么做,求善之心就会打断创造之意;创新时就要忘掉已有方案;勾勒草图时就不能太着眼于细处;写作时,先打草稿而不要去抠细节。在新事物之初,创意的思想必须得到无拘无束的释放

If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting. 如果你从未跌倒过,那么你也就从未努力过

Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom. 也许宇宙中最违反直觉的真理就是,你给予他人越多,你收获的就越多,这是智慧的起点

Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat. 朋友胜过金钱。金钱几乎可以做任何事情,但朋友可以做得更好。很多时候,自己有条船不如有个有船的朋友

This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man. 相信我,你很难欺骗一个诚实的人

When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it. 当一件物品丢失时,95% 的情况下,它都藏在人们最后一次看到它时触手可及的地方。在这个半径范围内搜索所有可能的地点,你就能找到它

You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on. 你做什么就是什么。不是你说什么,不是你相信什么,更不是你支持什么,而是你把时间花在了什么上

If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it. 如果你遗失或忘记带电缆、适配器或充电器,不妨去问问你的酒店。大多数酒店都会有满满一抽屉的电源线、适配器和充电器,这些东西都是别人留下的,没准儿其中就有你的,酒店也并不介意你借用后随身带走

Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison. 仇恨是一种诅咒,但它不会影响被仇恨的人。它只会毒害仇恨者,把你的怨恨当作毒药一样丢掉吧

There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with. 没有最好,只有更好。个人的天分有高有低,但不论高低,自身的提升都永无止境

Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete. 任何一项大工程(修房子、拍电影、开发 app)完成度为 90% 的时候,你都要做好心理准备:剩余的大量细节工作同样需要 90% 的时间来完成

When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation. 当你死的时候,除了你的名誉,你什么都无法带走

Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving. 在你年老之前,尽可能多地参加葬礼并听听别人的谈话,没有人会谈论逝者的成就,人们能记住的只有逝者在成功时是什么样的人

For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life. 你每花一美元在实体店购买一件东西,将来都要再花一元钱去维修、保养,或是在它报废后处理掉它

Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows. 任何真实的东西都来源于虚构的想法,想象是宇宙中最强大的力量,也是你可以做的更好的一种能力,生命中可以因不知众人所知而获利

When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress. 当危机和灾难来临时,不要错过他们,没有问题就没有进步

On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back. 度假时,先绕过城市去行程中最偏远的地方。这样你就能最大程度地体验到异域风情带给你的冲击,而在返程的路上,又可以享受熟悉的城市所带给你的舒适

When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter. 当你被邀请在未来的某个时间点做某件事情时,问问自己:如果是明天,你会接受邀请吗?绝大多数邀约都经不住这种迫切性检验

Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it. 如果一些话你不能当面对某人说出口,那么就不要在邮件中对他评头论足,因为他们最终会看到邮件

If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss. 如果你只是迫切需要一份工作,那你只是老板的另一个问题;如果你能解决许多老板眼下的问题,那你自然能得到这份工作。要想得到一份工作,就要像老板一样去思考

Art is in what you leave out. 艺术藏身于你遗忘的地方

Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will. 获得物品很少能给你带来深刻的满足感,但是经验却能做到

Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer. 研究的「数字 7 原则」。当你愿意就一个问题深入七层时,总能找到你想要的答案。如果你问的第一层人不知道,那么就问问他们应该去找谁,如此追索下去,你几乎总能得到你的答案

How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely. 如何道歉:迅速、具体、真诚

Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise. 永远不要在电话上面答应一个请求或提议,所谓的急迫不过是一种假象

When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict. 当有人对你粗鄙、无礼、刻薄,甚至是下流时,当他们有病就好了,这使得我们更容易对他们产生同情心,进而缓和冲突

Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures. 清理杂物,为真正重要的东西腾出空间

You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person. 你绝对不会想出名,不信的话可以随便找本名人传记读读

Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time. 经验往往被高估了,招聘时应该多看资质,技能是可以培训的。许多令人惊奇和赞叹的事情,都是新手做出来的

A vacation + a disaster = an adventure. 度假 + 灾难 = 冒险

Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford. 购买工具:从最便宜的开始,升级那些使用频次高的。如果你的工具是用于工作,那么买你能买得起的最好的

Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment. 学会毫不尴尬的打 20 分钟小盹儿

Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is. 如果你不知道自己热爱什么,追寻心之所向往往会带你误入歧途,对年轻人来说,更好的格言是:master something, anything,在精通一件事的过程中,你可以顺着带给你更多快乐的方向继续深入,并最终发现你热爱的东西

I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today. 我敢肯定,我今天认为正确的许多东西在 100 年后将被证明是错误的,甚至可能是令人尴尬的错误。而我非常努力在做的事情,就是去识别我对今天的错误认知

Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems. 从长远来说,未来由乐观主义者决定。作为一个乐观主义者并非要对我们制造的问题视而不见,而是要想象如何提升我们解决问题的能力

The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia. 整个宇宙在背后密谋让你成功,要相信,天助人愿